The mere thoughts that reside in my mind.
Published on April 21, 2005 By only a shadow In Personal Relationships
I have a friend… we are developing a relationship. I don’t know where it will lead us, but wherever it does I will be very happy.

We decided a good way to develop an understanding of each other is to ask each other questions (I have done it before in the past and it really does work.). Well, I first sent him an internet survey. I filled out mine first and sent it back before he did though. One of the questions was, “Do you believe in love?” and my response was, “More than anything.”

He questioned me about it… he said it was really odd that I said that. And I know exactly why. My “relationship history” has not been the greatest, and I think he is surprised that I still strongly believe in love like I do.

I believe love is an unwavering feeling. It never turns around and walks away and never gives up. When I find love in a person that won’t turn their back to me, won’t walk away, and never make me cry… then that is the day I will decide I want to get married.

But for now all I have known is people who said they loved me and never meant it… when I loved them with all my heart. I never turned my back to them until now… I waited with open arms to comfort them and for them to comfort me. But now is the time that I not only turned my back to him, I turned it to everyone.

I try to open up again… especially with this guy I am getting close to.

But everyday not only gets worse as the year treads along, it makes me hate myself even more. I wonder… why I cannot do anything right. Why everyone hates me so… why I can’t be good enough for anything or anyone… the questions are endless.

I sit in my lonely little corner… as the people who actually care about me tap my shoulder only to see if I’m still alive.

It’s getting harder and harder to breathe.

~Shadow

Comments
on Apr 21, 2005
But for now all I have known is people who said they loved me and never meant it…


You torture yourself for nothing. You know this as well as I do. Look inside, really look inside calmly....you'll find out why things are the way they are and it's not your fault.

You're never alone.....someone cares....there is always someone who cares.

~Zoo
on Apr 27, 2005
But everyday not only gets worse as the year treads along, it makes me hate myself even more. I wonder… why I cannot do anything right. Why everyone hates me so… why I can’t be good enough for anything or anyone… the questions are endless.


Never hate yourself, ever. This is probably coming from a person you don't want to say it, but you're worth so much more than what you make yourself out to be. You are a special person, and the only way for you to feel better about yourself is to realize that you are so much more than what you think.

I believe love is an unwavering feeling. It never turns around and walks away and never gives up. When I find love in a person that won’t turn their back to me, won’t walk away, and never make me cry… then that is the day I will decide I want to get married.


I believe that love never wavers. But I also believe that it changes. I hope you find that person who never makes you cry. You deserve him.

Peace,

Beebes


on Apr 27, 2005
Never hate yourself, ever. This is probably coming from a person you don't want to say it, but you're worth so much more than what you make yourself out to be. You are a special person, and the only way for you to feel better about yourself is to realize that you are so much more than what you think.


Exactly...

~Zoo
on Apr 27, 2005
Don't let someone's curiousity question your beliefs. This friend of yours was just surprised that you could still love with a the zest you have even after all the 'relationship history' you have had. Love is an unwavering feeling like you said, but sometimes not everyone feels about it they way you do and that does not mean that everyone hates you. I know it hurts, but you are a unique person who deserves to be loved and it should begin with you loving yourself.

~Unrequited
on Apr 27, 2005
He questioned me about it… he said it was really odd that I said that. And I know exactly why. My “relationship history” has not been the greatest, and I think he is surprised that I still strongly believe in love like I do.